Filed under: Leadership, my story | Tags: Ann Caulkins, Charlotte Businesswoman of the Year, Knight School of Communication, Laura Schulte, leadership, Queens University, Sharon Decker
A couple of weeks ago, I was honored to attend the Charlotte Businesswoman of the Year award luncheon honoring Laura Schulte of Wells Fargo.
North Carolina’s newly-appointed secretary of commerce Sharon Decker offered the keynote address. She talked about lessons she has learned from Charlotte’s great leaders, including Joan Zimmerman, Bill Lee, a homeless woman and a Buddhist monk. As a current student of leadership, I was really interested in Decker’s perspective.
What Charlotte greats have taught me (Sharon Decker)
- From Bill Lee, Sharon says she learned that “you’ve gotta use what you’ve got.” When she asked him about whether she should get a degree in engineering to advance her career, he taught her that her perspective as a non-engineer was meaningful.
- From Ellen, a homeless woman, Sharon learned that every human has value, needs purpose and love. She had encountered Ellen one day when she asked Sharon for directions to the hospital. Ellen suffered from mental illness, and fell into homelessness after both of her parents had died. She told Sharon, “I’m not sure where I go from here, but I’m sure there will be another way to make a life.”
- From Joan Zimmerman, Sharon learned about priorities. After she started the Lynnwood Foundation, she received a letter from Joan. In the letter, Joan told Sharon that she was so proud of her, that she knew Sharon was working hard and that she wanted to remind her to set priorities – knowing what is first in your life, and loving by those priorities.
- From Rolfe Neill, Sharon learned how to listen. After he read about her in an article, Rolfe reached out to Sharon and said that he wanted to meet her. “I had never had someone listen so intently to my story,” she said after meeting him. His listening touched her, and she never forgot the power of taking the time for real conversation.
- From a Buddhist monk, Sharon learned what she considers her most important lesson – to be still. The greatest risk to us today is that we don’t know how to be still, she said. Sharon learned to meditate and “hear her own heart,” and she said that we miss things because we don’t listen to the story.
What I admired most about Sharon’s story is that she strives for balance and she is so open to opportunity. She doesn’t try to cover up that finding balance as a successful corporate executive, mother, wife and community leader is hard. Her transparency and honesty draw people in, and are impactful leadership traits.
When introducing award recipient Laura Schulte, Charlotte Observer president and publisher Ann Caulkins described Laura with words like customer-focused, calm, direction, identity and said that Laura “steps up.” In Laura’s remarks after receiving the award, she said that the number one key to Wells Fargo’s success in the Charlotte community has been its goal of making sure that every team member understands why he or she does is important. “Why are we here? Of course making money is a business goal, but I come to work because our customers have a lot going on, and we want to build lifelong relationships with them,” she said.
Connecting customer service to team member engagement was the theme of Laura’s speech. “I believe the responsibility of business goes beyond making money,” she said. “Philanthropy, civic engagement, volunteering…local leaders know that this is what a community needs to thrive.” She also mentioned that it’s important to hire great people and then get out of their way – a great example of empowering others.
Each of these women taught me that there is not one road to being a good leader, and that they share many of the same struggles that the rest of us deal with. A recurring theme that continues to emerge in these discussions is emotional intelligence, a sense of self-worth and understanding, and a talent for helping others feel valued.
Filed under: behind the scenes | Tags: backstage, backstage communications, communications Charlotte, finish each day and be done with it, front stage, Lelia King, PR, Ralph Waldo Emerson quote
We all know that the “face” we put on each day – in our interactions with coworkers, our conversations with strangers, our social media presence, etc. – does not always reflect how we truly feel. For my Goffman fans out there, of course I’m talking about our “front stage” vs. our “back stage.” For those of us in PR, marketing or communications, this juxtaposition is something we think about often.
How we communicate is often a balance of how we feel and how we want to present ourselves. It’s not just the words you say or write, it’s also the meaning behind them. Were you short with a coworker because you are having trouble at home? Are you using your best grammar in an email to your boss because you are hoping for a good performance review?
The thought that I want to leave with you today is from Ralph Waldo Emerson, and was shared on Facebook by my friend Jen.
Know that you are given a fresh start every day. Every day, you can choose how you communicate with others. Words are very powerful – choose them wisely.
Filed under: stories | Tags: Game design, interactive communication, Knight School of Communication, listening
I’m currently in a class called “Interactive Media & Storytelling,” which has been an interesting and strange journey so far. However, as I was reading a chapter in my game design book by Jesse Schell tonight (the art of game design), he made a point that stuck with me.
He said that out of all skills for a game designer to develop, the most important skill is listening. On p. 5 he goes on to say that:
Game designer Brian Moriarty once pointed out that there was a time when we didn’t use the word ‘listen,’ instead we said, “list!” and where did this come from? Well, what do we do when we listen? We tip our head to one side – our head literally lists, as a boat at sea. And when we tip to one side, we put ourselves off balance; we accept the possibility of upset. When we listen deeply we put ourselves in a position of risk. We accept the possibility that what we hear may upset us, may cause everything we know to be contradicted. It is the ultimate open-mindlessness. It’s the only way to learn the truth.
I couldn’t help but think about all of the scenarios in which this applies. Most of all, I’m glad that I’m developing my ability to really listen and consider others. Do any of us ever truly listen?
Filed under: my story | Tags: comm601, Knight School of Communication, queens university of charlotte
I am plugging along in school, and I wanted to share with you a snapshot of a typical evening at Queens. Tonight in my comm601 class, which is really the introductory class to this program, we are expanding our digital literacy through a blogging workshop. Here you see fellow student Jennifer sharing her expertise. We will discuss some of our readings around one particular communication theory, and share the results of an assignment we researched this week. It’s cool to share our experiences and hear from other students about what they have been through and how they use these tools. This program helps open students’ eyes to their passions, which is something I didn’t expect but am thrilled about. For me, it is really fulfilling to spend time exploring and sharing with other students, and it makes you realize how precious your time is every day. If you happen to be interested in learning more, let me know – there is an information session in Charlotte next week.
Filed under: my story | Tags: adobe illustrator, authentic, identity, identity visualization, macomm, organizational and employee identity, personal brand, pinterest, queens university of charlotte, visual resume
As part of the Organizational and Employee Identity course that I am just about to wrap up (through the MACOMM program at Queens University – which I think you can tell that I love so far), we were challenged to create a “visual representation of your professional identity by creating a personal infographic ‘resume’ and Pinterest board.”
While this project was challenging – I had to try to quickly learn what I could about Adobe Illustrator and graphic design – it was also a really interesting exercise in figuring out and prioritizing those things that really define my identity. (Quick plug to my friend Courtney, who spent tons of time helping me navigate the graphic design world!)
What I found was that, for me, my professional and personal identities really do cross over. As much as I like to think that I can keep my work life and my personal life separate, my personal convictions and passions do factor into my professional decisions and goals. So, my visual resume infographic mirrors that. If I were to send this to a potential employer or client, I would want him/her to have an understanding of what my capabilities are and who I am as a person.
What do you think? If you are an employer, would you want to better understand potential employees through visual resumes? As employees, do you think a visual – one that you would feel comfortable sharing on LinkedIn or other social networks, per se – would help you in your career goals?
Filed under: Public Relations | Tags: authentic, communications, PR, PR and yoga
Public relations and the communications industry should take a lesson from yoga. We need more balance, more stretching and most of all, don’t forget to breathe.